Things to work on with your ADHD Coach

Coaching is a relatively new profession, and people often wonder what actually happens in a coaching session. Well, it's simple. The client chooses a goal, or a few goals, and then sets about designing the steps required to achieve the goal(s) within a certain timeframe. Along the journey, the coach keeps the client focused, motivated and accountable.

Here's an example of goals you might choose to work on with your coach:

• Clean out the clutter in my cupboards/ drawers/ garage/ benchtops/ office
• Increase my ability to process more information without becoming overwhelmed
• Establish one delicious habit and do it every day
• Always arrive early and never feel rushed
• Reduce the amount of conflict in my life
• Take charge of my life instead of letting others run it for me.
• Take much more time for me instead of living too much for others
• Reduce adrenalin in my life so I don't burn myself or others out
• Accelerate my personal development
• Find a career I love
• Discover my personal values & orient my life around them
• Put my family first without putting myself second
• Turn my worst weakness into my biggest strength
• Find a better way to motivate myself
• Simplify my life
• Learn how to practice extreme self-care
• Spend less time in the future (or past) and more time enjoying the present
• Stop over-promising and making unreasonable commitments
• Stop smoking completely within three months
• Ask my partner / children to give 3 hours of time per week to release me for something I enjoy
• Create a personal health plan that includes daily exercise
• Learn 5 skills to improve my communication with my partner / children
• Turn my ideas into revenue streams
• Deepen my relationships with my friends
• Get more done but slow the pace at which I'm working
• Find my voice and speak confidently
• Free myself from beliefs
• Shift the paradigm in which I exist
• Come to enjoy change instead of resisting it
• Get the quality rest I need

Contact me if there's a goal or two that you'd absolutely love to achieve.

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I Believe in You: The ADHD Coach Credo

• I believe you have a unique gift to offer in this lifetime, which will bring you joy
• I believe that you are willing to be honest with yourself and with me
• I believe that you can solve any problem you encounter
• I believe that you are capable of far more success than you know
• I believe that you are willing to learn what others are not
• I believe that you are able to commit yourself to mastering your craft
• I believe that you are coachable
• I believe in YOU
• I believe

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Michele Toner, ADHD Coach
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ADHD Coach - Imperfection is the New Perfect

Many clients come to see me because they have been sent for 'fixing' by their wives, mothers, fathers, friends or even sometimes their children. They bring a litany of complaints compiled by their loved ones and ask me to help them to be perfect so that those close to them can like them better. I always have to disappoint them on that score. Instead of focusing on their faults, I like them to focus on their strengths. Sometimes they can't mention a single positive thing about themselves, as all they see are the faults that are constantly pointed out to them. When we love someone, and when we're worried about their inappropriate behaviours, we sometimes go overboard and won't stop trying to fix them until we think they're perfect.

I'm not making an excuse for inappropriate or hurtful behaviour here. ADHD causes much friction in the household, and much of the coaching work I do focuses on changing my clients' behaviours and habits. But I do always have to guard against the tendency to blame everything that goes wrong in the house on the child or adult with ADHD. I ask wives what it was that first attracted them to their husband with ADHD, and whether those endearing qualities still exist? If they do, we have something strong to work on. There has to be some hope! I ask mums to describe positive qualities in their children, and watch their faces light up as they talk of the wonderful lego creations, drawings, plays and other marvellous creations produced by their less-than-perfect offspring.

What's my point? Let's not forget to celebrate the good while we're weeding out the problems. Two mums, who also happen to be sisters, have started a movement to celebrate imperfection. They call themselves the Shutup Sisters, having written a book called: Shutup About your Perfect Kid!.

I urge you to join their movement, or to start one of your own. Add your celebration of imperfection to this blog, or click on my Facebook Page widget to add your story of imperfection there. You'll find a link to the Shutup Sisters there too.

Coaching can help you to identify your strengths and weaknesses. That, in turn, will make it possible to maximise your strengths and minimise your weaknesses. Yes, with coaching you too can be perfectly imperfect.

Contact me to start telephone or face-to-face coaching:

micheletoner@hotmail.com